If you are in the dating market and are looking for that special guy and want to get him forever, it is all a matter of being the woman men adore.  So many women make this effort in completely the wrong way and the cycle of losing decent guys just goes on and on.  Is there a secret you should know about?  Perhaps!

Our society’s love of the “wafer thin model” look has created pretty unrealistic expectations of the ideal woman.  And, it goes the other way too in terms of what a ‘man’ should be.  So, the first thing that has to be done is to render a change of thinking.

Historically, there has been a sweeping generalization that the only thing men want is sex.  Of course, women have been conditioned to think that if she provides enough sexual intimacy, she can get him forever.

Make no mistake men have forever loved sex, but so do women.  In fact, most women’s sex drive is as strong as men’s sex drive, but due to our conditioning men chase it whilst women are encouraged to be a ‘nice girl’ and remain chaste prior to marriage.  So, the result is frustrated, sex deprived women and guys that are on a conquest to get their numbers up.

A real connection is what men are looking for.  Don’t get me wrong, men want sex (and their quantitative need is probably somewhat in line with yours), but that is not all. We also want something real.  If you can balance the two (connection & sex), you will be the woman men adore and the next good one will be around forever.

Humans need to have a sense of connection with other humans.  If you first base your relationship on this simple premise, … Read More

I hope that you have never whistled at a girl or tried to gain her attention through a pickup line.

If you have you probably realize now that girls do not respond positively to these pathetic attempts to communicate with them. If you have not realized it and have gotten a positive response with this approach I suggest a visit to the doctor because you may be in need of some Penicillin.

During your actual conversation with a woman is when she will decide if you are a creep and mace you in the face or you are a cute guy and give you her phone number.

The best piece of advice I have been given on conversation is “You have to be interested in order to be interesting.” In other words you must take the initiative to acquire to know her, this is done by asking her questions.

There are two basic questions I suggest:

1. Where are you from?2. What do you do for work/school?

This will get a response for example: “I am from here, born and raised”

You should respond with a follow up question such as: “Really, so all your family lives here also?”

The purpose for these specific questions is they will almost always elicit a response that will give you more information for follow up questions.

Another example if you use question #2 and she responds with: “I work in sales”

You could then follow up with “What sort of sales?” or “How long have you been doing it?” or even simple questions such as “do you like it?”.

After you ask 2 or 3 follow up questions you should answer the questions you asked her, regardless of if she asks them of you or not. In other words after she … Read More